電影里，這種英雄，不是很多麼？
不是因為喜歡一個人的狀態，而是找不到志同道合的人。。。 大一的時候就是這種獨來獨往的狀態，和室友僅僅只是打個照面，班上的同學也認不完，部門裡面的人是不同學院的，彼此之間也是有所隔閡，那種感覺特別的微妙，一方面我很享受這種遠離喧囂的放逐感，另一方面內心又特別的惶恐。看著周圍的人一起進進出出，而自己一個人形單影隻的去上課，去食堂，耳朵里塞著冷門的音樂，內心其實是非常寧靜的。因為在這種狀態下可以去思考很多問題，去想清楚很多問題，總的來說就是內心會變得很強大。 現在認識了很要好的兩個朋友，如果按照表面來看的話，也就是「酒肉朋友」，我們考完六級一起去刷夜，平時一起去食堂吃飯，一起去看電影，去上自習。但是說真的，這只是表象而已，和他們在一起的這一年，我變得更加的樂觀和開朗，不會是以前那個偏激沉悶的憤青，因為當你的情緒有了共鳴，得到了回應，歡樂有人分享，悲傷有人化解，心胸也會更加的寬廣。當然也不是說有了朋友了之後就會變得浮誇，思想的碰撞，總會引領到更遠的地方。 其實朋友這回事兒真的是重質不重量的，就像謝耳朵說的那樣，維持五份友誼是件很麻煩的事情。有一兩個交心的好友也是一件很好的事情，不必八面玲瓏，也無需煢煢孑立，孤獨是相對的，只是這樣沒那麼孤獨而已。
看過的一篇文章。 Meeting and Making Friends on Campus 1.What can you do when you find yourself in school without enough friends? You can try to meet and make friends on campus! It is not a difficult task. There are several methods to master, and you may find it easy when you try them out. 2. You can start by looking around at people in your classes, dorms/dormitories and dining halls. You will see them very often. An easy way to start a conversation is to talk about something everyone is interested in. For example, before or after classes, ask, "did you get the assignment for next week?" or "what did you think of the professor"s theory of...?" This helps you start a conversation. Be sure to introduce yourself before the end of the conversation. 3. If your campus has other dining places, such as a cafe or a small restuarant, then there will be more opportunities for meeting people. After you"ve introduced yourself and talk about class, it"s the perfect time to ask the other person to join you for a cup of coffee or dinner in one of these places. Once you are at the table, it should be easies to talk about where you"re from, what your major is, what you think of the class, whether it is easy or hard, etc. It will be much easies to suggest meeting again in any other places. 4. There are many other places where you will see people over and over again. Join a club, interest group or sports team. This means joining a community, and it is also a good way to meet people. You can get a job writing for the school newspaper. Read the newspaper or go online to look for social events. Attend concerts and cultural events. All these help one meet people with common interests in a relaxed setting. 然後，原來你不想在學校交朋友呀，那你就適用於以下這理論了。怕寂寞就交朋友，想孤獨就是下面這視頻了。希望對你有幫助吧。 復旦大學陳果老師 孤獨論 朋友論 學習論 生存論視頻
中國人，是最喜歡抱團生存的，因為這樣風險小。於是少了很多獨立的思想和自由的人格。更少了一種I DON"T CARE 的豁達。
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