阿斯伯格系列：改變環境，一切都可以隨之改變

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1、以下中文內容翻譯自Asperger Experts網站的免費文章<The Ripple Effect: How Changing The Environment Can Change Everything>，原文鏈接為：

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譯文：

環境導致傾向。

可以把這句話寫下來，貼在自己經常看到的地方，雖然大家往往不會明著這麼說，但這句話算是生活中的金科玉律之一。

這裡說的「傾向」，是指在某些環境里，某些行為更有可能發生。比如學校里有學習的氛圍，監獄裡恐怕就沒有。

我們當然需要改變自己，擺脫防禦模式，調整心境， 學習自我接納，但是如果我們一直呆在負面的環境中，這些努力會變得更加艱難，需要更長的時間，期間的波折也會更加令人沮喪。

這裡的『環境』又是指什麼呢？環境說的是一個人身邊的一系列關係，或者說關係網路，不僅包括和他人的關係，也包括和自己，和事情的關係。

換種方式說，環境可以包括：

客觀環境，比如住所、城市；

人際環境，即人際關係；

文化環境，你生活於其中的社群的文化；

以上幾種都是外部環境，最後，還有內部環境，包括你的生理結構和特徵、你的感覺、你的思想等等。

當你努力地想走出防禦模式、改善自己的生活狀態，但身邊的人總是給你負面的反饋，那麼要改變自己就更加不容易。

有時候，環境會滋養負面的情緒和行為傾向，而只要簡單地改變環境，就能觸發一個人的改變，比方說，在學校里會做的事，在家裡可能就想不起來去做，在家裡的習慣，在工作場合就不會出現。改變環境，可以給人帶來真實有力的影響。

想一想，在日常的生活和工作環境中，你和其他人都會產生什麼傾向？

怎樣改變環境，可以讓你對自己和他人更有耐心、更願意表達和接受愛、更願意與人溝通和建立情感連接？怎樣改變環境，可以避免自己不自覺地滑向隔斷感、在焦慮和負面情緒中越陷越深？

原文：

The Ripple Effect: How Changing The Environment Can Change Everything

Environments cause tendencies. Write that down and stick it somewhere that you can see it often, because it is a golden rule of life that isn』t often talked about.

What I mean by tendencies is that certain environments have a better chance of causing certain things to happen. A school causes tendencies of learning. A prison, not so much.

Sure, you can work on changing yourself, getting out of Defense Mode, aligning your Influence Circles, Holding The Space, and everything else we teach, but if you aren』t in a proper environment, everything will be much harder, take much longer, and be a lot more frustrating.

So what is an environment exactly? In our world, it』s just a distinction that creates a frame around a set of relationships.

You have the physical environment (the rooms, buildings, cities, etc that you inhabit on a regular basis). In that environment, you make it your environment through your relationship to the various locales that you frequent.

But you also have the external environment of relationships to other people and the culture of the society you live in.

Finally, you have your internal environment. Your thoughts, feelings, biology and physical structures that make up 「you」.

And try as you might to get out of Defense Mode or improve your life, if your external environment is full of toxic people that put you down, it will be VERY hard to change.

The environment is creating some nasty tendencies.

This is the true power of changing yourself & others, because just by a simple shift of the environment, we can change the tendencies of people to react a certain way.

We know, for example, that certain tendencies happen in a church environment that do not happen at school. And certain tendencies that happen at home don』t happen at work.

So I ask you, as you operate in your daily environments, what tendencies are being created, both for you and others?

And how can you change those environments to cause tendencies of patience (with yourself and others), love, connectedness and acceptance, instead of separation, hatred, and anxiety?